If putting naked pictures of your ex on the web for other men to pleasure themselves to is “revenge,” what does that say about pornography in general?

People keep saying how porn is “just sex”,then why are people using sex as a form of punishment and abuse? This is supposed to be, to liberals a “liberating”,”empowering” thing but these same consumers tend to use it as a tool to dominate,humiliate the women who they are angry with. They say if we normalize porn (how is it not normalized,again?), we will be liberated. Piles upon piles of pornography has been out over the last couple of decades or so and men’s terrible attitudes towards women being sexual still hasn’t changed. Porn is part of the problem.



“If men imagine it as a humiliating fate for a woman to have random men pleasuring themselves to pictures of her, does this not mean that men see pornography as a humiliating fate in general, and are getting off to the humiliation of the women in their daily porn viewing? If spitefully releasing sexual images or videos of women that men know personally is ‘revenge porn,’ how must men feel about the women they don’t know personally, but watch in porn every day.”


* source corrected


spot. fucking. on.





guys, whatever you’re posting about, shut up and talk about these six seconds of pure beauty instead.

This guy kills it in every video I’ve seen of him

It’s like each video gets better and better



Zanele Muholi: Of Love & Loss (2014) - Currently showing at Stevenson Gallery in Johannesberg (South Africa) from 14 February - 4 April 2014.

The opening coincides with the presentation of a prestigious Prince Claus Award to Muholi.

Gallery Statement:

In times of increasingly homophobic legislation enacted by African countries and in a climate of intolerance towards homosexuals in the Western world, South Africa distinguishes itself with a Constitution that recognises same-sex marriages; yet the black LGBTI (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex) community is plagued by hate crimes. Black lesbians are particularly vulnerable and are regularly victims of brutal murders and ‘curatives rapes’ at the hand of neighbours or ‘friends’.

Since 2013 Muholi has been documenting weddings and funerals in the black LGBTI community in South Africa, joyful and painful events that often seem to go hand in hand. The show features photographs, video works and an installation highlighting how manifestations of sorrow and celebration bear similarities and are occasions to underline the need for a safe space to express individual identities.

As Muholi writes:

Ayanda Magoloza and Nhlanhla Moremi’s wedding in Katlehong took place four months after Duduzile Zozo was murdered in Thokoza. Promise Meyer and Gift Sammone’s wedding in Daveyton took place on 22 December in Daveyton, 15 days after Maleshwane Radebe was buried in Ratanda. Six months earlier, Ziningi and Delisile Ndlela were married in Chesterville, Durban. Many in the area attended the ceremony, blessed the newlywed couple and prayed for them and their children. We long for such blessings as we continue to read about the trials and tribulations that LGBTI persons experience in their churches, where homosexuality is persecuted. In 2014, when South African democracy celebrates its 20 years, it seems more important than ever to raise again our voice against hate crimes and discriminations made towards the LGBTI community.

The exhibition includes also a series of autobiographical images, intimate portraits of Muholi and her partner taken during their travels, a tender counterpoint to the tension still generated in South Africa today by same-sex and interracial relationships.

see her past work here.


I’m a new black






I like my collard greens lightly sautéed and my chitlins broiled in salt (not hot sauce). #newblaxk

you like yo kool-aid sweetened with honey instead of sugar?

Actually I prefer my kool laid cherry flavored and not RED. And I like it sweetened with agave or dates.

you dont sweeten kool-aid with honey, you sweeten kool-aid with agave nectar, You sweeten your tea AND coffee with honey. haha

Sweetener is a state of mind. #newblack

Agave is super bad for you though, I wish everyone would please stop using it!!  

There’s nothing ‘natural’ about it, it’s entirely an industrial-process sugar. It’s up to 90% fructose.  Industrial fructose is one of the worst things you can put in your body.  (it’s not at all the same thing as fructose that’s in a piece of fruit.)  It doesn’t make you feel full so you drink way more than you would of normal sweet things.    It fattens you way faster than cane sugar.  Some mice were fed the equivalent of 1 can of soda a day in sugar and some one HALF a can of soda in fructose.   The fructose mice?  Got FOUR TIMES fatter.    Also, it’s the the most damaging kind of fat, it collects around your internal organs and in your liver.   Also fructose is entirely processed in your liver; it’s damaging to the liver in a way likely to lead to insulin resistance.    I’m gonna stop now, but you can google all the rest.


In one study, participants were asked to rank the humor in various cartoon captions. Half of the captions had been written by men, and half by women. When not told who wrote what, the participants judged them almost equally funny. In fact, based on the scores given in this experiment, men are just 2.2 percent more likely to be funny than women. Yet 90 percent of the participants agreed with the stereotype that men are funnier. Talk about a mind-bogglingly huge difference in perception versus reality.

And it gets weirder — when the participants were asked which gender they thought wrote a caption, the funnier ones were almost always assumed to be by men and the less funny ones by women. This might be expected, considering their stated bias. Even when told the name and gender of the person who wrote each caption, within a short time the participants started misattributing the funny ones to men. In other words, even when they knew that women had written some of the funniest captions, the bias that men are funnier was so ingrained that it made them misremember who had written what.